Well, here we are, another year in to this amazing marriage. In taking a play out of another couple's playbook whose marriage we absolutely respect and try to emulate (my big sister Mary's), we watched our wedding video tonight with the kids. Ali got all excited and dressed up in a made up wedding outfit and started throwing the centerpiece as her bouquet! Totally cute. Her groom? Julian, of course. Too cute.
When we were dating, Angelique and I created a vision for our relationship. It was the following:
"Love Freely Expressed, and Dreams Realized."
That was our mantra, our means, and our end. There is more to it than that, though. There is one major piece that was added when we recited our vows...
WE ARE ONE.
Like Butch Cassidy and the Sun Dance Kid, fighting the world back to back, we stand as one. You know those Chinese finger torture devices? What happens when you pull your fingers apart? They tighten. Imagine our marriage bond as the device, and each finger as each one of us. When the stress of life attempts to pull us apart, our marriage pulls us together. This is a conscious move, and we set it in motion like a computer "if/then" program. If life pulls at us, we get tighter. period.
Life has pulled pretty hard, but thanks to this programming, we just got tighter. Keep in mind, BOTH PARTIES need to agree to this. It truly takes teamwork.
Relationships develop along accidental, circumstantial, or consciously created lines. Which way are your relationships growing?
I love you, Angelique. You are the most beautiful, intelligent, easy going, and POWERFUL woman on this planet. Thank you for an amazing marriage and family. My life is constantly increased by you. I have become the man I am by being inspired by the woman that you are. Thank you for being such a great partner, and for infusing respect, generosity, and love into our relationship day in and day out, even if you don't think you do. I love being married to you, being your husband, and the daddy of your kids. It's an honor and privilege to walk through this game of life together with you, and here's to decades more!