Whew! It is late.... it's 1:32 am and I am just getting to the blog. We've been working through the night on material for the memorial that is now rapidly approaching! Due to the nature of entropy (the propensity for things to not go as expected in the universe), it took till this afternoon to get the location, minister, and musicians all on the same date and time. I had to put a bit more effort into locking everything down than I thought I would have to. This is the nature of what we humans call "hard." Aside from a describing a surface of something, there is no such thing as "hard." (I'm jumping right in this evening I guess!) There is only the amount of effort necessary to complete a task by the person completing it. When the effort is less than what we expected, we deem it "easy." When the task takes more energy/effort than we expect, we call it "hard." There are two variables in this equation that eliminate any action from being intrinsically hard or easy:
1) The person completing the task
2) Their expectation about the effort required to complete the task.
Change these, and you change the experience of the task. So, if you can't change #1, and you have to complete a task, increase your expectation of required effort. You will hit a magic mark where your expectation exceeds the effort put in, and you'll find yourself saying, "Hey, that was easy... which really means... that was easier than I expected."
We made some good headway with the memorial program. Music, readings, yougoogeleys, (again - watch Zoolander or at least look it up on imdb.com for funny quotes)... it's coming along. We took the grandmas to the site of the memorial today, and they were excited about it.
Plus, our angel of a nurse, Renee, will be hosting the reception afterward! She lives all of a mile away from the Conservatory, and we came over today and witnessed just the most adorable home in Roseville. We are so fortunate to be surrounded by such generous friends.
Plus plus, we will have Rafi's dad, Brett, shooting HD video on a tripod for youtube! So, if you miss the webcast, it'll be up on youtube at some reasonable point after! I'll let you know, I promise! The webcast is also a "Go." I really hope it works.
We had a god day of (more) retail therapy today. It's an apartment full of shoppers, whattaya expect? I had to buy a suit for the memorial, and that was weird. I had to buy dress shoes as well as all mine are in CA still. That was a drag, but overall, the pain was much less, though the low energy persists. I feel a lot less pain in my chest than yesterday. I am grateful for that because I know that plenty of tough days are awaiting.
Okay, I am falling asleep at the desk. Gotta run. Look forward to feeling your presence on Wed. Much love to you all.
One day, Bella did say, "Yeah, I was born with this rare skin condition, but when they brought me home from the hospital, it went away."