November 30: Team Bella for P.U.C.K. is growing!

Heaveno!

First off, THANK YOU to those of you who have thrown your hat over the wall and pledged to raise some money for P.U.C.K.  I can't thank you enough for answering my challenge!

I want to share something about the hidden magic of goal setting and the real reason for the challenge...

There are two parts to achieving any goal:

1)  The product
2)  The process

Most people set goals for the product or result.  Top achievers frequently report onset of depression after they achieve number 1, particularly the larger the accomplishment.  For example, someone sets a goal to run a marathon, and they've never been a runner before.  They train and train and train, and then the big day arrives.  They run the marathon, and what happens the next morning?  Nothing.  The goal has come and gone.  The "great sense of accomplishment" is reported to dissipate rapidly.

Why are they bummed out?  Well first off, they didn't have another game ready to begin, but second, they placed all their attention on number 1.

See, the real magic of setting a goal isn't accomplishing it, it is who you have to become in order to accomplish it.  The accomplished goal goes away, but the transformed you remains.  You get to take that transformed you into your next game, and into the rest of your life!

This, this, THIS is why I am so passionate about you pushing out of your comfort zone to take on this challenge!  The money you raise is a gift to P.U.C.K.  The person you become raising it is a gift to yourself.  This is the gift I want to give to you.  The gift of realizing that YOU ARE FAR MORE POWERFUL THAN YOU GIVE YOURSELF CREDIT FOR.  Heck, Ang and I are far more powerful than we give ourselves credit for!  The only way I know this is because enough of you have told us that.  I constantly practice listening to others about me and not the voice inside my head.  That voice throughout my life has not been my best cheerleader... jeerleader is more like it.  I have learned to let others' vision of me replace my own, and when I trust them and 'let it rip,' I really experience what everyone else has seen all along.  I want this for you.  NOT because you need it.  Because you DESERVE IT.

You made a place for my family in your lives.  In your hearts, in your prayers, at your dinner table, in your thoughts.  We are the ones trying to figure out ways to 'return the favor,' so to speak.  We also know that we don't have to, we choose to.

My experience tells me that there is a lot of fear around the topic of money on the planet right now.  What if this little group of us were able to experience power and freedom, inspiration and confidence around money in just 6 short months?  That sounds like more fun than fear to me!  What if those around us who witness our transformation around money get inspired and empowered to do the same?  What if by releasing our passion to make a difference, some of us get the courage to follow our dreams and start a new career path, or go back to school, or teach our children how to politely but clearly ask for what they want out of life?

Folks, May 27, 2011 is going to come and go either way.  If when you think of money, you instantly think of what you can't do instead of what you can, I invite you to come with those of us who don't want that feeling or focus in our lives any more.

For those of you who have written and said, "I'm in!"  How do you feel now?  Please comment.

For those of you who have not, but want to, but are stopped by something, How do you feel now?  Please comment.

There used to be 40-50 comments a day on this blog, no longer the case.   My hope is that you feel safe enough to comment whatever it is your feeling, and if I have ever responded to comments, I hope it has been with honesty and no sense of making anyone wrong for what they write.

I recently lead an awesome seminar called "How much are YOU worth?  Defining YOUR place in THE marketplace."  In that workshop, we had the best, frank conversation about money, sales, and selling.  It was so great to hear how people have been spoon fed so many disempowering definitions of and stories about money, sales, and selling.  Why?  Because everyone realized their stories were the same!  Everyone in there had heard the same things... all bad... but at first glossed over it.

If you don't think the world has some messed up notions about money, sales, and selling, just look at the state of economic affairs around the world right now... not exactly rocking it in the money game right now.

So, if you would like to experience a breakthrough in your relationship to money, email me at Timothy@thedivineplanet and I CHALLENGE YOU to keep your email to JUST the following (no stories... there's a specific reason for that):

Hi Tim!

I'm IN!

$1,000
Your name

Folks, there is a difference between your comfort zone and your safety zone.

The specific dollar amount is CRITICAL to this breakthrough.

Does $1000 seem totally unreasonable or achievable?  Pick something a little lower or higher, but again, I challenge you to pick a number that feels like it would be a stretch for you.  Hey, if you don't want to stretch, that is okay, too.  There just isn't as much available in the breakthrough dept, but the world will still be a better place from your participation in it!

As Heidi Klum says on Project Runway, "Are you IN or are you OUT?"  Please join us and be in!

Onward:

Grief share of the day...

I am going to share daily snippets from Dr. Alan Wolfelt's book I recently received called Healing a Parent's Grieving Heart.  I figure since our society is pretty starved for good literature on this topic of grief, it will be of value to all of us to chew on Alan's words a little each day, for it's not like any of us are going to miss out on grief at some point...

Day 2. Know that you are not alone.

In the U.S. alone, more than 100,000 children die each year, not including miscarriages and stillbirths.  In other less developed countries the number is staggeringly higher.  Countless more adult children die, and if you figure anyone under fifty who dies probably has at least one surviving parent grieving their loss.

This doesn't make any one parent's pain any less unique or valid, it just means there unfortunately are a lot more members of this club than you realize.

Healing comes in part from sharing the journey with others who have also gone through it.  Support groups like compassionate friends are out there and offer comfort.

Still other news:

There was a great comment last night about where the money goes to.  No offense taken!  Great question!  That is a huge question everyone has when donating to a cause.  I asked Drs. Tolar and Wagner for an itemized list of how much they needed and for what, and I got it.  They wrote out an in-depth proposal for me.  Before I share any of those details, I have written them for permission to do so.  I understand that they may not want me publishing everything, but I can tell you it is quite a detailed proposal, and yet, written in fairly understandable english and not complete clinical-speak!  So, bare with me until I get a green light as to how much they feel comfortable with me disclosing.

Still other news:

Ang and I have been amazed how challenging it is to "work normally" for an entire workday!  LOL.  Just because we know we have cognitive disturbance doesn't seem to lessen its symptoms!  Oh well.  As my mom used to say in the months after my dad died, "If I can just get to the right place at the right time with the right materials, I'm having a good day!  Amen, mom, Amen.

Okay, I am falling asleep at the computer.... gotta go.  Thanks again to all of you for begin here.  NOw don't be a lurker and COMMENT!  :-P

God night.

P.S.  Blogger won't let me upload pictures again.  Not crazy about their new template.